Losing a child to miscarriage, neonatal death, or stillbirth is unfathomable and something no person should have to endure. But when it happens, how can you move forward?

First of all, there is nothing that will ever fully take the pain away and I am sorry to be the one to share this sentiment. What I will say, is it does get better. Every morning is one step forward. So how do you help yourself along the way?

Before I share my list of recommendations, I want to mention…everyone grieves and heals differently, so take this list in consideration and do what feels best for you. As long as you are doing something to help heal and remember, then you are headed in the right direction.

• Be kind to yourself. Whether this is self care or words of affirmation grant this to you in abundance
• Don’t bottle your thoughts or emotions. Being gifted a journal was one of the best things that happened to me. I was never big on journaling, but I promise you it helps tremendously. You do not have to write a story. It can literally be anything…a thought, a word, a sketch, a quote, hard facts about your process, etc. Getting your thoughts out feels freeing. My journal contains all of the above plus magazine cutouts, photographs, song lyrics and more.
• Share your story. People will be afraid to ask, so when you are ready, talk about your pregnancy, your journey, and what your future hopes are.
• Don’t disclude your partner. You two are in this together, so please do not forget to lean on each other. You both are the closest to your loss so talk about it, and support each other thru all of the grieving stages.
• Do something in remembrance. For me, I created Hello Jude (a merch with meaning/giveback line).
• Dream about your future plans
• Seek outside help. Look for a counselor or therapist to help you navigate your feelings and mindset.

I can’t tell you how long the grieving process will take, but I do know that when you give yourself grace you open yourself up to healing. I am so truly sorry for your loss and my hope is that you stay open minded and optimistic for your future (when you are ready). Your baby’s life is irreplaceable so remember your angel baby often. Giving you big hugs from afar. <3

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